Marriage: Two for the See-Saw

by Rev Robert A Wendel

“Be subject to one another. Be of the same mind, husband and wife having the same love. And the two will become one flesh. The wife and husband shall fulfill their duty to each other.” (Ephesians 5:21; Philippians 2:3, I Corinthians 7:8-16,39 NRSV.)

In marriage, a man and a women agree to ride the see-saw of life, with all of its ups and downs, together. (Ruth 1:16).

The vows they make at a ceremonial moment really mean that they get each other in return. Each, gladly, meeting the other’s needs, taking on each other’s burdens. There will always be the other to talk to and to listen to. And they will have countless opportunities to be patient and kind to their sweetheart, while becoming more rich yourself than just you alone. (I Corinthians 13:4-5). These ancient notions are the biblical ideal.

Matrimony is to be thought of as a Divine institution people enter into out of custom, duty or a need to procreate. Most of us think this one relationship should-and could provide the full buffet of satisfaction; intimacy, support, stability, happiness and sexual exhilaration. If the union is not up to the task, then it’s easy and cheaper to unsubscribe and divorce. (2 Corinthians 5:17, Romans 12:2).

Marriage is the most intimate and basic of our social institutions but also the one most subject to shifts and change, making single adult life completely attractive. In a survey by Cornell University, couples said “At one point, their long marriage was the best thing in their lives, but it takes work (attention) and is really, really hard” (Corinthians 3:15-17).

The ultimate dream; figuring out how to go the distance, being faithful while bringing out the best in your partner. Studies suggest that married people have better health, better wealth and even better sex than their counterparts; and will, probably, die happier.

How do you find a soul-mate? Choose wisely! Stay married as if divorce is not an option. Charles Swindoll, radio bible teacher said, “To the unmarried; Be patient! Wed someone who is an active Christian. To the married; Be content! To the remarried; Be grateful.”